Desiring Emotional Regulation: Good Idea or Bad?
Currently in vogue is a type of therapy geared toward emotional regulation. Such treatment aims for management of human emotions. It has come about because of the idea that people suffer with emotional dyscontrol. Children are instructed to hit a pillow when angry or...
Are We Emotionally Trained and Conditioned Like Our Dogs?
We train our dogs to sit, fetch, catch Frisbees and do other tricks. Any pet dog we raise understands our voice and hand gestures. When we head to the fridge or our dog’s food bin at a certain time of day, our dog is conditioned to anticipate being fed. His behavior...
How Narcissists Create Confusion for Everyone
Self-centered, narcissistic people create confusion and chaos for others around them. This is true whether in the family, at work, or in any group they belong to. Since narcissists only believe in the vertical pronoun “I,” they are only self-interested and...
Repeating the Same Conflicts With Your Spouse?
Is every episode of disagreement with your significant other a déjà vu for you? Are you visiting the same arguments, territory and discussions again and again? Does nothing change from the first time you had conflict? Why is this and what does it mean for...Emotional Problems: We Are All In the Same Boat
When people have mismatches in their level of support in their personal close relationships they suffer emotional distress and illness. By a mismatch I mean people who give more emotional support than they receive in return. Or, a mismatch can take place when a person...
High Copers – The Good and the Bad Aspects
There are both good and bad aspects of being a “high-coper.” Recall that “high-coping” people are those that deal well with adversity, at least superficially. The good aspects are they like to solve dilemmas and problems. They develop strategies well. They put ideas...
Low Copers Among Us
We all have encountered, or even are ourselves, low copers, people who do not deal well with the slightest adversity. Such people figuratively cannot find their way out of a cardboard box. They whine loudly over having a hang nail. With actual and substantial...
Coping with Stress —What Can We Learn About Ourselves?
We all feel “stressed out” at times. What does this mean? What does it reveal about us? Stress arises from something in our lives that we believe we are unable to handle or are not handling well. It could mean that too many things are coming our way and that we feel...
Coping With Stress: “Low” and “High” Copers
The songwriter Paul Simon in 1973 sang, “One man’s ceiling is another man’s floor.” The same object or event means different things to different people at different times and under different circumstances. We know many combatants return from warfare experiences with...Connect with Dr. Adams
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